Just before Christmas I got the bug to start a patchwork quilt. Not a fancy,hand-stitched masterpiece, but a durable, usable blanket, the kind Grandma made to keep us warm in the winter. It wasn't that I didn't want to do the masterpiece, mind you. Mom had done a dozen or so of those. And while I was envious, I thought I'd start on a smaller scale, try to learn one step at a time. She taught us we could do anything we set our minds to. It was just a matter of taking baby steps.
With Mom 1000 miles away, I headed out to buy a rotary cutter, cutting mat, fabric, pulled out the template she had copied for me a while back and set to the task of piecing some blocks. When I had questions, I'd pick up the phone and ask. When I went to Milwaukee after the holidays, I tucked the quilt in my suitcase, and one afternoon when Mom was too tired to shop, we sat in her sewing room, laughing, piecing, and eventually weeding out her fabric stash. It was an afternoon to remember. It was the kind of afternoon memories are made of.
The above photograph is a miniature version of what we worked on. The points aren't perfect. The colored blocks aren't placed in just the perfect spots. But it was a labor of love, an afternoon of connecting on the level Mom was always most comfortable, sitting in her sewing room and doing what came naturally.
Eventually that "girl's weekend away" came to a close and I flew back to New Jersey. I sewed in my spare moments and eventually used up almost 1000 of those tumblers, a block for each mile we were separated. This past Tuesday morning I looked at the handful of leftovers sitting on my sewing table and decided to make them into a small top I'd use to practice quilting on. I called Mom and told her that this sewing thing was becoming a Monster, just like stamping had been years before. I started with scraps, bought the cutting tools, special pins, and even a sewing machine. Then I used up my scraps and had to spend another $10 at Wal-Mart for batting and backing. And we just laughed. She said if all it took to make me happy was $10 of "stuff" from Wal-Mart, I shouldn't worry. That was just fine.
In that conversation we talked about the sun, the moon and the stars About the new baby that's ready to come any day. About how my cats were happy to have me home after spending time away around the holidays. Packing the suitcaes away. About how she'd gone to Denny's for the Big Slam for breakfast. You know, the important stuff.
Before we hung up, I got down to the nuts and bolts of the call. Now how do I go about finishing up this quilt top? Should I use plain straight stitches and just "stitch in the ditch"? Should I use a fancier quilting stitch? What's next? Do I miter the corners of the border? Make them straight? How big is a lap quilt? Baby blanket? Of course she said, "Oh, it's your blanket. Just do what you think is best."
And eventually we both were talked out and I hung up. Little did I know that was the last time I'd talk with Mom. For, you see, today I got that dreaded call we all know will come one day. A neighbor went to the house after I couldn't get hold of her and Mom was there, sitting on the sofa. Her jacket half on, half off. Her mail sitting in her lap. Sound asleep with a peaceful look on her face...but not really. For tonight she's more than 1000 miles away, reunited with my dad, looking down at me and my unfinished quilt and tears flowing uncontrollably.
Love you, Mom...